Category: Dating and Relationships
Yeah, I think it's beyond ridiculous how both sides of my family (incluing obviusly my parents) don't ike the guy I've ben hanging wih because he's black, and especially since he's half Jamaican. I could care less, but tey on't wanus to o ut. They don't mind that we are good friends, but they won't let us go out. I don't think I've ever liked someone so much an they're even more upset that he's 18,and much bigger han I am. Like he's this tall black guy and ttey're having all hese preconceived notions about him. He knows how they feel, but I don't want this to rive him away. I hate my parents for now deciding to barge into my life after neglecting e for 5 friggin years. I've been livig without them for the longest time and they allways end up finding something to pound me for. Theirver abusive people and try to buy my love. I don't want them to come between us, but I don't want them to grow to disown me, theyve already threatened it. Wel, my dad has. My mom just says that noone in tat family associates with black guys and I shouldn't either. He's sighted, but he doesn't seem to care that Ican't see, but I'm wondering also if he'll mind it later on. Is this doomed to be bad if we do end up going out? Please help!!! Because i really don't want to lose him!
i think you should make your own decisions. people're always gonna be out to criticize things you do that they don't like, but so what! that's just a fact of life, and we can't let it get us down.
My family would freak out if I dated a black person. I would, if I fell in love with someone who was black. Race doesn't matter one bit to me. The other thing parents get ticked off about is religion. My boyfriend's parents don't like me for a variety of reasons, one of them being because I am not Catholic, let alone strict Catholics as they are. In the end, just let your parents know that if they care about you, and want you happy, then they'll learn to respect your decisions. Remind them that they raised you well, they taught you to have good judgment, and this is the choice you have made. If they don't accept it, live your life your own way. Don't let them live it for you.
Hey there. I am white and have had a few relationships with black women. You are dating the person, not them. There a lot of things that you need to consider. The top of the list would be how any children would be treated by others and each family. Although the two of you are color blind, the wrath of many people's hate could come to those that you love, your kids.
Personally, you are the better person, so I would trust your decision over any bigots anyday.
If you'd like to talk, look me up.
Good luck
Thanks, it's true, he's with me not my family...but it would be nice if the fac that he's black didn't bother hem.
I want to tell you a story from a movy I watched lately though I can't know its title.
there is an attorney and this attorney is defending the rights of black people and trying to defeat the racists who blames for various things. but afterwards his own daughter falls in love with a black and attorney gets very angry with that. the daughter asks, why doesn't he let her be with this black guy if he is a defender of black people? the attorney says:
yes I am a defender of black, they can marry white girls, but not with mine!
I just want to criticise how selfish people are. if someone doesn't know how a feeling is to fall in love, they surely won't let their children to love someone else. of course, they won't mind if their chlidren will ever make good decisions. "good decisions come from experience, experience comes from bad decisions" a wise man had said.
in my own native language, there is an author who said something crashing about racism.
"the races can be differed only at animals. did you ever see an english horse comes from a black arabian horse?"
I agree with the previous posts. My parents resent the guys i chose to date, it seems that i always manage to get hooked up with latinos, exactly how i like it. But my parents don't agree with it. They to are fine with me being friends with them, but they don't want me dating them. As stated before, he's with you and he shouldn't let what your parents get in the way of love. I would talk it over with them, and your boyfriend, and make sure that both sides know how you feel. If your parents still choose to reject the idea, then you do what you feel is rite in your heart. If he treats you rite and makes you happy, then don't let what your parents say have any affect on your relationship. You are the one that has to be happy with the guy your with, not them. And if he's black, latino, Chinese, whatever the case may be then go with it, and make yourself happy. If your family really loves you, they won't disown you because your with someone who has a different skin color then you. i wish you the best of luck
I agree with all of the above. I always like Latinos and guys of different races. I don't know y, but I don't care. My mom doesn't care either, but my dad does. He says he's not racist but he makes uncomfortable comments about them, so I'm going through the same thing u r. I wish u the best of luck and hugs.
well, not suggesting anything, but which means more to you, a relationship? or your family's beliefs, I say fuck beliefs. I've never been outside of my race, (to my knowledge) but at the same time, I don't find it wrong/incorrect/all of that.
I personally have never been attracted to a black guy, but I know my dad would be alright with it, and if not exactly alright with it, my mom would be polite. I feel fortunate to have a family situation like that.